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Eating disorders

Dating Someone With An Eating Disorder

Dating someone with an eating disorder, such as anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating, may expose you to issues you have not yet experienced.  Understandably, this can leave you feeling unsure of how to handle certain situations throughout the relationship.

Showing your support can be done through various approaches, and you’ve already taken a large step by reading this article!  The following are ways to continue being a supportive partner while dating someone with an eating disorder.

Show Compassion

Every relationship experiences highs and lows.  However, the ones you navigate as a partner to someone with an eating disorder are unique.  One of the best things you can initially do is show personal support to your partner.  This does not require grandiose actions.  Simply state how much you care.  Then, show you truly mean it through your actions. 

In an attempt to offer the best support to your partner, it is important to educate yourself and understand better an eating disorder. Above all, try to remember that an eating disorder is not a choice but an illness. 

There will come many instances in which they may feel discouraged by setbacks.  During these times, offer your support.  Even if you are still unsure which support may benefit them most, remain receptive to their needs in that particular moment.  Don’t neglect your needs at this time, either.  It is okay to admit that you also feel discouraged.  What matters most is that you work through these times together while remaining compassionate.

Be Aware Of Your Words And Actions

The last thing you want to do is make living with an eating disorder more difficult for your partner.  It is important to reassess the ways you have communicated in the past.  The words may have come from a place of love, however, that does not automatically mean that they were constructive to recovery.  

Even when the conversation is unrelated and not directed towards them, remain mindful of the vocabulary you use and its connotation.  While it may feel like you’re walking on eggshells at the beginning, educating yourself on proper terms and ones to avoid can be a breakthrough in itself. For instance, comments made in front of your partner about some foods being too fatty for you, will be triggering for your them. 

When voicing your concerns, rather than hone in on their food consumption or weight, use more general words about broader yet related topics.  Instead of commenting on their physical appearance, focus on their behavioural changes. For instance, you could say: “I’m really concerned as I see that meal times have been generating a lot of stress for you lately.” That type of comment will be better received compared to a more accusatory comment such as: “You have lost too much weight and you should force yourself to eat more.”.  

Perhaps there has been a change in their general demeanor, or you have noticed they are isolating themselves more than usual.  Explain that you notice these changes and are available to talk to.  Simply acknowledging that something is different can have a massive impact as your partner might not realize the detrimental impacts of those changes on their well-being especially as there is a lot of denial at the beginning of eating disorder. 

Overall, increased awareness of phrasing and the words you use can help you recognize how previous ways of speaking may have come across as judgmental.  No matter how unintentional, this can still cause harm.  What matters most now is that you are aware of it and are making the necessary changes moving forward.

Work Through Feelings

Dating someone with an eating disorder may leave you feeling like it is putting a certain strain on your relationship.  It is important not to have guilt about feeling this way or placing blame on your partner.  

If your partner is in treatment, they are undoubtedly going through many learning experiences and adjusting to new habits.  You are as well!  It is important to give your partner and yourself grace.  This can be a lifelong journey.  You owe it to yourselves to approach it with care and patience.

Part of this is listening to their feelings and giving up any semblance of control over them.  While you may approach it with the mindset of guiding them to a safer path, it is often not perceived as such.  

Asking For Support

If you need extra help for yourself or someone you care about, this does not mean you have failed.  Rather, it is merely another sign of how much you care.  It is normal to need more information and resources to handle any difficult situation.  Better yet, it is encouraged!  

There is a lot of false information being shared, especially online.  Different eating disorders require different treatments.  What someone experiences while living with Anorexia Nervosa may be completely different than what is experienced by someone diagnosed with Bulimia Nervosa.  Therefore, while treatments may have some commonalities, no two are exactly the same and even individuals suffering from the same eating disorder could benefit from different approaches.  This makes speaking to a professional one of the wisest decisions you can make. 

Counselling For Those With An Eating Disorder and Their Loved Ones

Knowing how to have productive interactions with someone who has an eating disorder, while balancing everyone’s emotions, is not simple or easy.  Therapy can help you learn the proper ways of handling the emotions tied to the eating disorder and throughout recovery.

Part of this will be to have a deeper understanding of where the disorder stems from.  It’s possible that they need to have a certain level of control over situations.  And, controlling their food intake and weight is one of the ways of attaining control.  This may be tied to other feelings of anxiety and/or depression that have never been properly addressed.  Of course, this is merely one scenario out of endless possibilities.   

There are many types of counselling offered, depending on what is deemed necessary.  It can be helpful to have both individual and couples counseling with a psychologist  if your partner is open to this.  Speaking to an eating disorder nutritionist can also be extremely beneficial to help you navigate those difficult situations, depending on the relationship!

For more information on possible treatment plans and to determine which is best for your situation, please contact Nutrivie Sante today.  Our eating disorder nutritionists are available to help you at our treatment clinic. Feel free to contact us here or by calling one of our locations in Westmount (514-965-5175) or Dollard-des-Ormeaux (514-965-5175).

May 27, 2025/by Votre nutritionniste Jaimie Yue
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Vous reconnaissez-vous dans les comportements à gauche, particulièrement à ce temps de l'année ? 🙋‍♀️

Ces mêmes comportements peuvent contribuer à une relation malsaine avec la nourriture et le corps. 

Voici pourquoi : 
🙅 Si vous vous sentez coupable et avez honte d'avoir trop mangé, vous risquez de manger encore plus vos emotions ce qui pourrait engendrer encore plus de compulsions alimentaires

🙋 Par contre, si vous pratiquez l'auto-compassion et normaliser le fait de trop manger des fois, vous serez surpris de constater que le besoin de manger sera moins présent. 

🙅 Vous punir en restreignant votre apport alimentaire pourrait occasionner plus de pertes de contrôle. Notre corps et notre cerveau n’aiment pas la privation. Le plus que vous vous restreignez, le plus que l’obsession de ces mêmes aliments augmente jusqu’au jour où vous perdez le contrôle sur ces aliments interdits.
🙋 Après avoir trop mangé, essayez plutôt d’écouter votre corps car ce dernier voudra retourner à son poids naturel. Comment ? Votre degré de faim au prochain repas ou pour les prochains jours diminuera probablement. De plus, vos envies alimentaires seront peut-être différents; vous aurez peut-être envie de manger des repas plus légers, plus de légumes, boire plus d’eau, etc. 

🙅 Si vous faites de l'exercice pour vous punir et pour brûler l'excès de calories ingérées, l'activité physique deviendra tout simplement une corvée et aura une connotation négative. Vous abandonnerez peut-être très vite.
🙋 Par contre, si vous écoutez votre corps et que vous bougez pour le plaisir et le bien-être, l'activité physique deviendra plus facilement une habitude et fera partie d'un mode de vie sain.

Essayez de faire différemment cette année 💚

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An eating disorder can be a life-threatening condition that requires the complex intervention from a multidisciplinary team. 

For optimal recovery, the team will usually consist of a doctor, a psychologist and a dietitian with a specialized training in eating disorder.

Head over to the link in the bio to read the full article about the 4 reasons why an eating disorder dietitian/nutritionist is an integral part of the recovery journey.

P.s: Recovery is possible! Don't lose hope 💚

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As-tu peur de perdre le contrôle en mangeant des bonbons d’Halloween ? Voici quelques astuces pour t’aider pendant cette période : 
1-	Mange les bonbons que tu veux
Eh oui, te restreindre de manger des bonbons ne fera qu’accentuer l’envie d’en manger et il y aura plus de chance que tu perdes le contrôle éventuellement. De plus, ne mange pas des bonbons sans sucre si c’est une barre KitKat que tu veux ! Satisfaire tes papilles diminuera aussi les chances de perdre le contrôle. 

2-	Savoure tes bonbons sans culpabilité
La culpabilité annule l’acte de manger ! Ainsi ce sera plus difficile d’être à l’écoute de ton rassasiement si tu te sens coupable de manger tes bonbons. On mange pour le plaisir aussi. Alors, à bas 

3-	Essaye de ne pas sauter de repas et de collations
Tu n’as pas besoin de te punir en te restreignant pour pouvoir manger des bonbons ! Te restreindre, ne fera qu’accentuer ta faim et augmenter les risques de perdre le contrôle avec les bonbons plus tard.

4-	Et même si tu manges trop de bonbons, donne-toi une bonne dose d’auto-compassion !
Se reprocher d’avoir trop mangé ne fera que renforcer les aliments interdits. Par exemple, tu pourrais te dire : « J’ai mangé beaucoup trop de bonbons et maintenant je vais prendre du poids. Plus de bonbons pour moi pour les prochains mois ! » En vous interdisant les bonbons, ils deviennent le fruit défendu qui, à son tour, devient encore plus attrayant. 

Si tu as besoin d'aide pour travailler sur ta relation avec la nourriture, on est là pour toi ! :) N'hésites pas à nous contacter !
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La semaine de sensibilisation aux troubles alimentaires se tient du 1er février au 7 février 2022. La thématique de cette année vise à vous aider à éloigner la voix négative du trouble alimentaire et faire place à votre voix bienveillante ! 💪💪

Selon les dernières données, 2.7 millions de Canadiens souffriraient d'un trouble alimentaire. Cette semaine permet de sensibiliser davantage la population à mieux comprendre la problématique du trouble alimentaire, de communiquer avec une personne qui souffre d'un trouble alimentaire, et de lui apporter votre aide.

Au Québec, Anorexie et Boulimie Québec (ANEB) et la Maison l’Éclaircie, avec l’aide de nombreux partenaires issus de milieux communautaire, privé et hospitalier ont préparé pleins d'évènements gratuits auxquels vous pouvez participer. Vous trouverez le lien pour la liste des événements dans la bio .
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L’équipe de NutriVie Santé s’agrandit ! 🎉

Nous avons le plaisir d’accueillir Olivia Carone, une nouvelle nutritionniste-diététiste !

Olivia  détient un baccalauréat de sciences en diététique de l’Université McGill et est membre de l’Ordre professionnel des diététistes et nutritionnistes (ODNQ) du Québec.
 
Olivia se spécialise en :

👉 Alimentation intuitive pour vous aider à avoir une meilleure relation avec la nourriture et avec votre corps

👉 Compulsions alimentaires

👉 Gestion des maladies chroniques

👉 Gestion des problèmes digestifs (syndrôme du colon irritable, ballonnements, constipation, etc.)

👉 Nutrition sportive

Olivia est très heureuse de pouvoir vous accompagner dans l'atteinte de vos objectifs de santé. N’hésitez pas à nous contacter pour prendre rendez-vous avec elle ! 😊

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Our team is growing! 🎉

We’re really happy to welcome Olivia Carone, our new nutritionist-dietitian!

Olivia holds a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Dietetics from McGill University, and is a member of the Ordre Professionel des Diététistes et Nutritionnistes (ODNQ) du Québec. 
 
Olivia specializes in:

👉 Intuitive eating to help you heal your relationship with food and your body

👉 Binge-eating disorder

👉 Chronic disease management
    
👉 Digestive problems (IBS, bloating, constipation, etc.)

👉 Sports nutrition

Olivia is happy to accompany you on your health journey. Feel free to contact us to book your first appointment with Olivia! 😊
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A lot of you might already know that diets do NOT work. But beyond that, diets have detrimental impacts on SEVERAL areas of your life.

Note that the examples listed above for each area of your life are just a few examples of many more ways diets can be damaging for you.

Recognizing all the damaging impacts of diets can help you mute all the food rules that have been dictating your life and finally help you be more in tune with your body, let go of food obsession and guilt. 💚

A big thank you to our intern @oliviaacarone for her collaboration on this post!
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Body Mass Index (BMI) is still a prevalent calculation used by many people including healthcare providers to determine if someone is as his/her healthy weight.

 

However, BMI is deeply flawed for many reasons and CANNOT be used as to assess an individual’s health.

A big thank you to our intern @oliviaacarone for  her collaboration on this post!
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At first glance, these applications seem quite user-friendly and useful for the intended purpose. You only have to enter your age, sex, weight, height, physical activity and they provide a recommended daily calorie intake.

1. They are inaccurate at determining your energy needs

Determining your energy needs is much more complex than just plugging in your age, weight, height and physical activity in an application. For instance, sleep, hormones levels, stress, genetics, body composition such as muscle mass, medications, medical condition and history of dieting are a few other factors required to determine your energy needs. Eating the amount of calories dictated by an application is therefore inaccurate.

2. They make you more disconnected from your body’s signals

As our needs vary from day to day, our hunger and fullness cues will vary accordingly. However, when you are fixated on achieving the calories recommended by the application, you will be disconnected from your body’s signals.     

3.They could trigger an unhealthy relationship with food  

In some  instances, it will undoubtedly be hard to stick to the recommended caloric intake. Therefore, when that happens, you might feel guilty for not having enough “will power” to resist the temptation to eat. You might compensate those “excess” calories by forcing yourself to work out, thereby punishing yourself for simply listening to your body’s needs and cravings.

4. You miss out on some nutritious foods

When focusing only on the calories, you might prioritize low calorie foods and might want to exclude higher caloric foods. However, by doing so, you might be forgoing on some nutritious foods such as nuts, fatty fish such as sardines and salmon, avocado or seeds. Yes, those foods are higher in calories than a low fat yogurt, rice cakes, or a 100 calorie fibre 1 bar but they are nourishing for your body. 

5. You might forgo on the pleasure of eating 

We just don't eat calories and nutrients. Another factor influencing our food choices is the pleasure of eating which calorie tracking devices do NOT take into account!

For the full article, click the link in the bio 💚
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March is Nutrition Month! This year, dietitians want you to know that there is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ approach to healthy eating - let us help YOU find YOUR healthy!

 

What is “good for you” is not the same for everyone. There is no one-size-fits all approach to nutrition. Because each person has unique needs based on

👉their health status and nutritional needs.

👉 their preferences

👉 their lifestyle

👉 their culture, religion and food traditions
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